Adolescence is a time when teenagers find out who they are and what they stand for. They are looking for ways to spend time apart from their parents and figure out how to navigate the world alone. Their bodies experience big changes physically, socially and emotionally. These changes lead to growth spurts, dealing with feelings and increased interest in one’s personal and sexual identity. During adolescence, brain development is at an all-time high. Not since infancy has the brain undergone such dramatic changes. Although a teen’s ability to understand more abstract thoughts and ideas increases during this time, the transition can be rocky. Teens often begin to participate in risky behaviors, try on new identities as they search for their sense of self, and look beyond their own family in search of new role models.
A loved one’s illness can make these changes more challenging for teens. It can also be confusing for parents, who may not know what is considered “acceptable” teenage behavior, as opposed to behavior that may require professional help. It is important to recognize when teens are struggling beyond the typical emotional response to a loved one’s illness.
Signs That Your Child May Need More Support
- Sudden mood swings.
- Dramatic changes in socialization.
- Changes in grades.
- Skipping school.
- Getting in fights.
Parents and caregivers can speak with school personnel or a pediatrician to find out how to get the help your child needs. Hospitals as well as local and national organizations frequently offer support groups which provide a safe space for teens to share their thoughts and feelings. You can ask a social worker or child life specialist if there are any support groups offered at your medical center, or to help you find support within your community.
The most important thing parents and caregivers can do is to get the support your child needs. Remember: getting help does not indicate that someone did anything wrong. It’s the first step you can both take to discover the reasons for these changes in behavior and find new ways to cope with troubling feelings.
